“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
The above quote was posted on my cousin, Mary’s, Facebook status this morning as she wished all of her FB pals a great week. I LOVE IT!!! It goes right along with some discussions I had over the weekend with an old/new friend (knew him but really getting to know him now). We were talking about people accepting us as we are, all of our perfections, flaws and in between stuff.
When we are at our best, happy, fun, agreeable, and in harmony, then everyone wants to be our best buddy. They love to hang with us, or be married to us, as long as we are meeting their expectations for who we are or should be. They tell us they love us, that we are ‘keepers’ and how important we are to them. Their loyalty to us as friends or loved ones, seems undying. That is, until the less than attractive qualities that we possess begin to appear, then they want to change us or they toss us aside.
This saddens me because if you want the REAL person, the TRUE person, you have to accept that people are flawed. No one is perfect, and everyone will disappoint us and fall short of meeting our standards at times. Do we want a real person that is true to themselves, or do we want someone we can mold into what we want them to be?
When we are first attracted to another it is because of what we see, those first impressions and sometimes a few more beyond. Something about them draws us to them and we become friends or something more. But sooner or later we discover they are not only those good things, but they also have some less than desirable characteristics that make up who they are as a whole person. It is then we must decide if those good qualities can out weigh the bad, can we accept them as a whole and not in part only. Do we want who they are, or who we want them to be?
Everyone wants to be a star in your reality show of life when things are going along great and you are riding in the limo so to speak. But look around you next time that run of greatness runs out and you are back to taking the bus of life, rolling with the punches. Who is still there, sitting in the seat beside you when life deals the crap cards, or maybe you just aren’t on your game and your bad side is showing? THOSE people are your supporting cast, the ones that love all of you. Fire the rest, you don’t need them, they are fake friends, fair weather types. Then nurture those relationships with those who really DO want to keep you, as you really are!
I think from now on, if someone wants to ride in my limo of life, they will have to meet the side of me that rides the old, clunky bus first. Because in the words of the late Marilyn Monroe:
“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”